(27 October 2020)
Let’s start with the very beginning! At least since Ancient Greek times, “know thyself” is a known, yet underestimated basic skill. “If you want to lead others, learn to lead yourself” is therefore the first module of any professional leadership development programme.
What are your core beliefs? Where do you (unconsciously) follow social norms you would actually like to overcome? Which of your behavioural patterns have helped you in life, which have not? Etc.
Sounds like bullshit bingo, but is nonetheless crucially important!!!
So, what to do to make things happen in society? Well, it's like in your job: Start with increasing your self-efficacy - only this time in your role as a citizen:
Just to illustrate the latter, two concrete cases which I am currently co-creating with others:
(29 October 2020)
Just a couple of additional thoughts:
(1 November 2020)
Some more thoughts:
(3 November 2020)
Here are three suggestions – with two of them easier to implement than the third:
And when you are nevertheless convinced that all others are idiots, remember the old “Judgment Detox” rule at least: Notice more, judge less!
(8 November 2020)
Let me start with reminding us of the „confirmation bias“ which we all know intellectually, but tend to overlook in daily life. Even more dangerous (and often underestimated) is “groupthink”. Both as member and facilitator of top teams, I have so often seen the well-researched symptoms of groupthink unfold: Self-censorship, illusion of invulnerability or unanimity, rationalising and stereotyping, etc. Even the best and most intelligent groups of experts are prone to “expert think” as it is called in this case!
Pro-actively managing groupthink therefore remains a huge and untapped performance potential in many company boards and government cabinets. Anyway, which routines should we at least (in our role as citizens) establish when being members of groups? Here are just a few advice:
(14 November 2020)
When I was a young man, one of my life teachers left a piece of advice with me I only started to fully understand later in life: “Not-knowing, confusion, and helplessness are our best mentors!” Today, I am convinced that I could have never lived my purpose as a bridge and a facilitator without those dear mentors.
In his latest book „This Too a History of Philosophy“, the “Frankfurt School” philosopher Jürgen Habermas shares the interesting observation that never in the history there has been so much knowledge about our not-knowing and that this would create “existential uncertainty”.
I am wondering if existentially uncertain citizens compensate for that by being attracted to leaders displaying lots of over-decidedness and illusion of control. And by charging themselves with moral self-authorisation in order to be able to denounce others who deal with uncertainty differently. Let me throw at you a couple of more background thoughts:
(16 November 2020)
In August 2020, when I had to choose an especially important “Citizen Hack” as a teaser in part IV of my "Manifesto: Citizen Skills Matter", I picked this one because “blaming others in order not to feel the pain” seemed to me particularly relevant for a world society in pandemic stress (also find the old text below again). Since then, mutual blaming has become even worse. I have therefore collected a couple of learnings we have had around fear and anxiety lately:
So, what can we do as citizens? Three little advice:
"Blaming others in order not to feel your pain"
As I’m sure you’ve noticed, I have tried to ignore the COVID-19 situation in my manifesto. The risk of unknowingly using trigger words in an overly emotional public discourse is simply too high. Nevertheless, dealing with uncertainty and fear in the face of a pandemic currently teaches us a great lesson about life in general: When we all struggle, we strive to find a culprit for our misery and happily identify other human beings to take the blame. Let’s pause for a minute and work on our resilience: Who of us doesn’t make mistakes? Is the mistake really that bad? And is it really true that there was a mistake in the first place?
If we all had used these check questions when we heard about the (wrongly accused) “American super-spreader in Garmisch” instead of immediately asking for severe punishment, we wouldn’t have been able to conveniently redirect our attention and negative energies to someone else. I hope that in the future we won’t regress that easily to bad habits which remind us of times of witch hunt and mob law.
The E.U. as institutional scapegoat
National governments themselves regularly play a nasty “scapegoat game” with E.U. institutions when they claim E.U. successes for themselves and when they blame the E.U. for unpopular decisions – which is even more reprehensible when national governments themselves have actually lobbied for those decisions behind the scenes.
Let’s just imagine for a moment what would happen if more skilful citizens could unmask such unworthy behaviour and turn the tables: In such circumstances, what would prompt national politicians to act would not be opinion polls or clickbaiting of national tabloids, but skilled and well-informed citizens. The latter would have more realistic expectations towards democratic institutions which would then allow those institutions to transparently engineer better compromises (and decisions).
Of course, populists of all camps are unlikely to appreciate competent citizens: It’s like the scapegoat role of referees in modern football and how the video assistant referee (VAR) seems to be a threat for (too) many football fans to not have a readily available culprit to blame. The similarities between political populism and football fan culture are often painfully fascinating. Hence, stop shifting your own frustrations in life to politicians, to football referees, and to other human beings in general! Instead: Pause for a while before you act (or not)! Notice more, judge less!
(20 November 2020)
Compromises are a core feature of democracy! Or more clearly: A democracy without compromises is unimaginable if we assume that human beings are not identical clones. And if there is diversity in personalities, preferences, interests, etc., bringing all of them in balance is time-consuming, often emotional and always full of volatility, uncertainty, complexity, ambiguity (VUCA). This is why training our VUCA skills also makes us better citizens!
I have been raised with valuing compromises as something positive (“it is better than going to war or in an escalation spiral”) and to esteem those who make them possible.
Therefore, I am regularly surprised and sometimes even appalled when I hear the standard narratives in the morning news e.g. after an EU summit: Words like “crisis” and “chaos” and a disrespectful tonality towards those who have negotiated the two nights before. Please excuse my infuriation:
So, what do I recommend:
(22 November 202)
This hack is actually quite self-explanatory. When you discuss it over a dinner table, nobody would seriously question that continuous negativity makes us sick. On the other hand, happiness, satisfaction and true positivity seem to make suspicious. Both in many organisations and in society, they are often interpreted as a lack of willingness to perform and “go the extra mile”. How often have I heard variations of “you look unstressed and seem to be happy… don’t you have anything to do?” Although there have been regularly recurring waves of discussions around “Salutogenesis” and a more holistic perspective on health and wellbeing since the 1980s, they have been largely hidden behind the dominant narrative that life is ultimately about (superficial) success, status climbing and an “always-on functionality with a false smile”.
In 1993, when I was a public policy making student in Washington, D.C., “pessimism is no policy” was still an iconic slogan after the dull Reagan/Bush years. It must have been soon later that some kind of negativity virus has started to gradually infect society with – what I would call - a “spot the mistake“ attitude.
Let me share with you an empirical “mini test”. It is only anecdotal and comprises only one single observation point in each of the last 3 years, but it should be enough to make my point: It is the first hot day of the year. All (online) newspapers ask their science journalists to (re-)publish the annual list of advice what one should do in order to avoid sunburns and sunstrokes.
When those articles were published, I simply counted how many of the first 100 comments below the article were negative: It was more than 80 in average every year in every journal!
Remember: This is not about politics and not about sports, it is just a piece of advice grandmothers would have given in earlier times. “Now, THEY already want to dictate us what we shall do on a sunny day” is a typical comment. Plus those many other comments reacting to all possible trigger words that could accidentally or willingly be misunderstood. Obviously, we are pretty good in spotting mistakes.
So, what can we do:
(25 November 2020)
Building on the last citizen hack on positive thinking, let me share with you a recent observation:
Of course, we intellectually understand that bad news are good news, but we also sense deep inside that we are part of that “clickbaiting mechanism” ourselves. So, what can we do to disrupt our own patterns:
(29 November 2020)
The COVID pandemic hit Europe exactly 23 years after I became a change manager at Lufthansa. It’s time for a learning loop! No, not about the state of the airline industry today or how I would analyse Lufthansa’s evolution since 1997 with an outside view. This would be another story… ;-)
As one of those early change pioneers who were experimenting with non-linear transformation models, agile facilitation, holacracy and all that stuff back then, I am wondering whether we as citizens have gained a “meta change competence” as well in all those years or if we have rather lost it. In the beginning of the "Manifesto: Citizen Skills Matter", I claimed that (new) consumerism and (old) nepotism have kept us busy with ourselves (“My car and my family first!”) leaving no room for taking social responsibility beyond our own obvious interests. However, democracies need citizens who are capable and willing to put themselves into the shoes of dissimilar groups in a pluralistic and interdependent society, to think a few steps ahead, and to act within this society with a holistic attitude and literacy in systemic thinking.
So this time, rather than giving concrete advice, I would like to share with you only a few reminders how to possibly look at our society as a change manager:
Just as food for thought when we start or continue co-creating our society with other citizens. :-)
(9 December 2020)
When I mention this classic advice in groups, I often hear that this would be naïve: How can one be sure that the other is not a bad person with sinister intentions? Well, one can’t, but when assuming the worst, one can be as much wrong. And pro-actively sending signals of trust can not only be more satisfying, it simply results in higher “expectation values” as well when it initiates a spiral of trust. Yet, I admit that I have to work hard to follow this advice myself. What helps me is to always remember the basics of every communications training:
Reading the likes of Watzlawick and Rosenberg does not only help us as citizens, we also learn more for our job than in pretty much any management book. To illustrate how essential that stuff is, as an example let’s just take the daily idiot who randomly comes in our way when we are driving a car or riding a bike:
What this attitude has to do with citizen skills?!?! Well, just look at our co-citizens and at ourselves! Wouldn’t it be great to take out this first and avoidable line of conflict in any political debate and spend the saved energy on the things that really matter in our society?!
And after so many wise calendar mottos in the boxes, I have to close with another one from Goethe for the German speakers (a Goethe quote is always good in this country ;-)):
“Wenn wir Menschen behandeln, wie sie (scheinbar)sind, so machen wir sie schlechter; wenn wir sie behandeln, als wären sie, was sie sein sollten (wenn wir das Gute in ihnen bejahen), so bringen wir sie dahin, wohin sie zu bringen sind (machen wir sie zu dem, was sie werden können)."
(from „Wilhelm Meisters Lehrjahre“ with own additions)
(14 December 2020)
I am a big fan of radical diversity. It’s actually the underlying assumption of my identity as a bridge: Bringing people, filter bubbles and ideas together that would not meet otherwise. But more and more I realise that there is a new problem: Diversity is largely understood as a feel-good concept and as an empowerment programme solely. As much as the ubiquitous diversity narrative reflects the great progress of the last decades, it shields us from the bitter insight that true diversity sometimes hurts.
After I had proposed the first sentence of this current Hack #13 many years ago, we had a good conversation among a circle of friends: Some were so honest to admit that they would only advocate for others with dissenting views to be heard IF these others somewhat shared the same values. “Sorry to be blunt”, I replied then: “This is simply not enough for citizens in a pluralistic democracy! If all of us draw such narrow circles around us, productive dialogue in a democracy will be made impossible.” Democracy requires the intellectual and moral strength to respectfully live with antagonism. Or, how the popular communication theorist, Friedemann Schulz von Thun, phrased it in his recent book: “In a harmony of first order, differences are suppressed, dissenting views marginalised. Superficially, there is the illusion of uniformity. In a harmony of second order, diverging views are no longer ignored, but integrated – to allow for the development of a truly diverse and holistic society.” So, what can we do:
(16 December 2020)
The progressive differentiation and specialisation has overall been a great success story in the last centuries. Knowledge has been produced inside an increasing number of ever smaller research disciplines. This has clearly added value to humanity and still does. But there is a challenge as well which worries me for a long time (and also led to the creation of my social innovation business as a “bridge”): Today, the prototypical figure of a polymath is unimaginable.
Who still understands the big picture of the interdependencies in a complex world? Who translates and facilitates between the hundreds of experts who only understand small perspective clippings of reality each? Which are the citizen skills needed to utilise science for the benefit of our societie(s)? It’s time for a collection of thoughts on science theory and science reality:
In contrast, Western science has inherently produced an immanent overconfidence among scientists. The Swedish science philosopher Eric Angner found in his research on scientists in general that the more information they have the more overconfident they are. He concluded that it would be a rare art to appear confident without overrating oneself. And that unfortunately, all of us would have a tendency to prefer overconfident experts (which would unintentionally result in bad advice). Nobel Prize laureate Daniel Kahneman reminds us that the expertise of an expert is only there when there is a stable regularity in the environment relevant for his/her expertise. Angner therefore recommends always asking experts under which conditions their predictions could be wrong instead of merely asking what they expect.
And to disturb the world view of many engineers and the likes even more: There are tons of valuable empirical evidence from the social sciences that are as good (and as bad) as from the natural sciences which can help us to improve our societies. Neglecting this diversity in the sciences has increased the risk of “truth terrorism” in the public discourse today, notes communication theorist Bernhard von Poerksen building on his famous joint publication (“Truth is the invention of a liar”, 1998) with the “trans-disciplinary” constructivist and father of second-order cybernetics Heinz von Foerster. The old philosophy classic that truth is a function of social agreement maybe still applies. Obviously, we have to live with more ambiguity than we hope.
Democracy desperately needs citizens who can skilfully utilise science as an input for public policy making. If not, politicians (in a democracy with constant opinion polling) will have to react to under-complex and populist demands from citizens. And at the end of this vicious circle, politicians would get the blame even if they did exactly what the citizens wanted them to do in the first place. In times when societies oscillate between the extreme poles of (weird or shocking) conspiracy theories and a naïve belief in THE science, it is about our citizen skills: What can we do in our different societal roles to deal with the science system?
(18 December 2020)
If the COVID pandemic has reminded us that our actions often have effects on others, it would be good. Yet: There are thousands of our other daily actions which also have effects on others and which we are either not aware of or we simply don’t care. Why not allocating some of the time and energy we usually spend on rat races or avoiding taxes on improving our own social sustainability?!
As an activist for environmental sustainability in the 1980/90s, I am happy that with “Fridays for Future” the topic has finally reached a tipping point of public awareness. In the last 20 years, I have therefore shifted my own focus on SOCIAL sustainability and civil rights activities which seem to be as uncool today as climate stuff was in the 1990s. Maybe the uncoolest among them is currently the human right for “privacy”: It cannot produce feel-good photos (like e.g. kids, animals, trees) to mobilise citizens in a super-visual world. This void can therefore easily be abused by lobbyists from the private sector and from law and order advocates in governments. In recent years, the attacks on privacy followed 3 (often overlapping) narratives:
Pluralistic democracy and human rights are not a fun thing for good times, they must prove their stability and their relevance when they come under pressure from extremist views from the right, the left or wherever and – which is the biggest threat – from careless consumer-citizens. In my new year’s mail 2014, I quoted Austrian novelist Peter Handke: “What others do not know about me, that is what I live for.” I couldn’t believe then that fighting a battle for privacy would become even more uncool in December 2020. But I am proud to out myself: I have supported Amnesty International almost all my life. I am committed to local civil rights initiatives in my home town Frankfurt. With few exceptions, I have avoided GANFAM (Google, Apple, Netflix, Facebook, Amazon, Microsoft) and careless clicking. And of course, I am writing articles like this one – until zeitgeist hopefully changes again. In the meantime, let’s consider this:
(20 December 2020)
It has become popular in recent years to make the individualisation process of the last decades responsible for pretty much everything that seems to go wrong in society: Be it conservatives complaining about “ego-centric” women and men who want to legally marry their same-sex partner or be it progressive activists who label the change-hesitant mid-age cohort as “ego-centric status junkies”. Of course, it is always the others who are ego-centric and show a lack of solidarity…;-) No big surprise and maybe the right time for asking a few questions:
There is no doubt that democratic societies need members who look after one another and who do voluntary stuff for the community (e.g. in a fire brigade). The mechanisms of those solidarity exchanges are highly divers and depend on numerous cultural dimensions. How to enforce solidarity? Can solidarity be enforced at all? By a government? By social pressure? What are the collateral damages when enforcing appropriate behaviour (with a social credit system like in China or similar)?
My father ran away from a Catholic community in the 1950s, because he perceived their solidarity concept as suppressive. Was he ego-centric? How about sexually diverse people in Russia today who are called ego-centric when they just do what heterosexuals do? Or West German mothers who are still called ego-centric “Rabenmütter” sometimes when they leave their kids in a day-care centre to pursue a professional career?
The social emancipation process of the last centuries (in Europe) would have been unimaginable without individualisation. Accepting that there are different interests, needs and life concepts is at the core of any pluralistic democracy. Disruptive inventions to allow for scientific and societal progress come from egos who challenge mainstream thinking.
But what to do when the “ego system” is exaggerated? After she became prime minister in 1978, Margaret Thatcher said that “there is no such thing as society (…) only individual men and women”. Probably, it is fair to say that the 1980s brought “Reaganomics” and a zeitgeist which we refer to today as “neoliberalism”. It was influenced by people like “objectivist” Ayn Rand who rejected altruism and strictly believed in ethical egoism. The market radical ideology around trickle-down economics, shareholder value, privatisation of public goods, etc. has since then probably destroyed a lot of the (good collectivist) structures which hold our societies together.
It is no surprise that conscious entrepreneurs and even employed top managers lately have started publicly resonating about neo-Marxist models of political economy. It seems all too obvious that our system of the last four decades needs an overhaul. So, what are the good things to keep? How to use the strengths of market economy (innovation, better resource allocation, etc.) for the benefit of all? How to go beyond the superficial (and often actually ego-centric) “purpose” narrative? How to fundamentally challenge our own status-driven conduct of life?
I admit that since my teenage years, I have always tried to develop ideas for what German calls the “Third Way” of an economic and political system utilising the best of individualistic and collectivist models. Let me share with you a couple of unconnected (subjective) autobiographical notes around that:
Let me try an intermediate conclusion to my questions: In 2020, expressions like „system relevance“ or „essential” are booming. They mean very different things to very different people. We need to be ready to respectfully exchange on those different meanings and accept views dissimilar to our own without being outraged. Solidarity also protects minorities and diverse ways of life. A pluralistic democracy is by definition about balancing individualism and collectivism. It’s A and B, not A or B. As a key citizen skill, we need ambiguity tolerance to explore options between the extreme poles. Since there is a cultural path dependency, we could not quickly (even if we wanted) copy-paste elements of Asian cultural practices to Europe or vice versa. Yet, as a European I would hope that we would try to integrate some (Asian) patience and humility into our culture. It was great when some years ago the term “ECOsystem” became popular, because it has indeed shifted our awareness from the EGO to a more holistic, systemic, and yes, let’s call it collectivist perspective again. Let’s co-create our pluralistic democracy by bravely experimenting with disruptive ideas from all sides! What do you think?
(22 December 2020)
In 1495, the “Imperial Diet” (“Reichstag”) of the Holy Roman Empire in Worms decided to found the “Imperial Chamber Court” (“Reichskammergericht”) as its first central institution. Initially located in my hometown Frankfurt, it was a milestone of jurisdiction: Not only the monopoly on violence was centralised, many of the elements of criminal law and penal jurisdiction as we know them today were institutionalised for the first time. Many practices which we associate with the dark ages before were challenged and gradually controlled. Some of those new principles later allowed for the development of a constitutional democracy. Great breakthrough, I always thought. In recent years however, I am not so sure anymore whether we really have advanced as human beings. How civilised are we?
Let me conclude: We all have primitive instincts somewhere hidden in us. Managing them is our responsibility as citizens. If we expect total security and absolute certainty in whatever field, we are not suitable for living in an open society (which by definition always has residual risks). Our attitude towards torture and death penalty is a litmus test for our democracy fitness. Citizen skills are important, but without the right attitude, they are not even decent techniques. So, check yourself whether you would openly fight for the (human) rights of accused and convicted murderers. I hope you will!
(26 December 2020)
In November 2019, we started a “Salon Cycle” around “Post-heroic Leadership” to discuss the role of citizens in times of populism and neo-authoritarianism.
We want(ed) to look at constant trade-offs we find ourselves exposed to. “On the one end: Special times need more than ever hero(ines) to break off social norms to allow for real disruption. And on the other opposing end: It is exactly this type of toxic heroism which prevents true diplomacy, honest collaboration and effective sustainability.”
What great timing in hindsight! Not so much in terms of feasibility unfortunately, but on a meta-level the COVID pandemic was and is a remarkable “societal show” of heroic patterns. As an intermediate conclusion, I wrote in July 2020: “In times of obvious uncertainty, citizens demand simple and clear messages to release themselves from their own burden to deal with ambiguity and not-knowing. They reward those politicians who do them the favour. Weighing ethical dilemmas is perceived as weakness. Instead, people just want to believe the categorical imperatives and the war rhetoric of heroically acting leaders and hence the illusion of control they promise. Wow! We had expected a lot, but the degree to what intelligent human beings escape their own uncertainty by delegating hope to somewhere in the hierarchy exceeds even our expectations.”
This was the moment when I decided to publish my “Manifesto: Citizen Skills Matter” followed by a few “Citizen Hacks”. After all, I am less concerned with populist politicians, and much more with how willingly citizens themselves follow those populist politicians: If citizens have more skills, populists will be less likely to succeed. If citizens fall for leaders with simple law and order messages, then citizens get what they deserve and should stop complaining. Hence, we need to look at the followers, not only at the leaders! So, here is my pitch:
(28 December 2020)
There are only two citizen hacks left in my series. They are about dreaming and co-creating our future, because citizens need skills and dreams. Let me share with you some of my own (which you might recognise from the previous citizen hacks):
Dreaming is one source of energy for me, but I admit that it can be quite a challenge for the positivity I expect from myself. I have learned in the last 20 years that dreaming is largely unpopular: Either it is perceived by others as naïveté or as a threat to the own conduct of life when it reminds of those cognitive dissonances painfully covered or of the “bourgeois hell populated with nightmares”, as Albert Camus called it in the “The Fall”. As a German, I grew up in a country where East and West were allergic to utopia and with a Chancellor gladly quoted until today with “Those who have visions, shall see a doctor!” Climbing the social ladder became an end in itself and ego-centric deal-making the social norm. Idealistic dreaming was accepted when it remained in exotic bubbles and didn’t challenge the majority’s coping mechanism of resignation and cynicism, coupled with a “Cult of Anger”.
Anger, fear and outrage are highly infectious – and unfortunately a loss of energy. Maybe the biggest achievement of my last 20 years has been to remaining in a positive “dreaming-outrage balance” most of the time: Keeping on dreaming without being (very) outraged when others don’t share my dreaming.
Because as much as I believe my dreams are important, it could also be that I am wrong.
(30 December)
Not much to be added for this last citizen hack in addition to my "Manifesto: Citizen Skills Matter".
In a nutshell: Simply be the change you want to see (around you). Start with wherever your energy is. Invite others, try to convince them, and don’t judge them if they don’t want to join you. It’s all about attitude anyway, because „without the right attitude, it’s not even a decent technique“ (Steve de Shazer) or “if you don’t have a good character, you don’t need a method” (Albert Camus). Maybe there is a tipping point soon and the mainstream of society will react to your (first) moves. Or, you just learn, grow and continue. That’s pretty much it!
My own energy is now with our “Bridge Salons on Social Sustainability” and a post-COVID attempt of a series on “Post-Heroic Leadership”.
I will keep you posted! :-)
© Torsten Weber 2024